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Healing Happens ~ An experiment with Qigong energy

A Game of Power


So I was laying quietly in bed this morning, listening to the wind howling through the trees and my husband calls up the stairs "Honey do you want to try a cool experiment?"  Now we're currently training our two huge hounds so I figured that it probably had something to do with that. 

You can imagine then that I was totally surprised  to find him in the liquor cabinet searching for brandy, especially given that it wasn't yet 9:00 am. I was definitely intrigued!

Jim's just started practicing Tai Chi again after an absence of 25 years so naturally he's quite intrigued by videos like the one that you'll soon watch that's been posted below.  I love working with with healing energies so this really didn't seem like a stretch. We put out the cheapest cognac that I had (because just in case I wasn't going to waste my precious stash of Calvados!) and poured an equal amount into three glasses. Then we followed the Master on the video. 

I was pleasantly surprised. When we were done it was completely obvious that there was a difference in the glasses. Both of our glasses were indeed sweeter and the third glass was very harsh. Then just for fun thinking that perhaps the warmth of our hands had done it we let the glasses get cold. There was still a noticeable difference. Then each of us took turns shutting our eyes while mixing up the glasses. We could still tell which glass had not been worked with. 

Try it for yourself. The implcations are quite astonishing if you think about them. Every Eastern culture has an energetic process for purification of food and water that involves an energetic transference between oneself and ones sustenence. Here in America we are constantly relying upon other processes to takecare of this for us. I'm not saying that we should give up the many advances that we've made, but what I am saying is that if we began to take some responsibility for these things alongside of the  processes that we've created, then perhaps we'll begin to reestablish  some very important connections to our source.

Our 20th century detachment from earth as the source of our lifeforce and our reliance on outward industrial processes has finally pushed us perilously close to the edge of the enviromental cliff.I believe that it's going to take a reemergence of personal accountablity on all of our parts to help us thrive, not simply survive into the next century. The energy spoken of here (not unlike the one truth found in all religions) is the same, it's just the process of using it that changes. Now take that one step further and wonder for yourself. What could be done if all of us put that same intention into everything that we did? What would life look like for not just ourselves but our children and our grandchildren?


Healing Happens~ Getting Back into the Water!


The other day I saw the most remarkable thing. Let me digress...When I was young I learned to surf in Hawaii. To be out on the water, just you and a large board and waves that break over you like thunder is one of the most amazing feelings in the world. It's pure freedom...everybody should experience it at least once . My son inherited my love of the sea and when he's out here he plays in the waves every chance he can. As I type my husband , son Alex and his girlfriend are out enjoying a particularly amazing set! We've been here in San Diego celebrating the wedding of my nephew and his high school sweetheart and the waves have been fabulous everyday. Pure unadulterated bliss!


When I was out taking a walk on Friday, I saw a large group of surf instructors and a ton of volunteers out on the beach. That's not unusual...what was different were the vast number of completely disabled veterans in wheelchairs. Then, I saw the instructors and volunteers helping them out to the ocean and on to surfboards.They took them way out into the wave sets. Then I watched in amazement as they helped each one have the joy of riding in! I was completely blown away. These guys came in and everyone cheered and clapped. There were double amputees, quadriplegics, PTSD victims..you name it they were out there experiencing the ocean with the help of those dedicated volunteers.


I stood there with tears rolling down my cheeks and then marched off to find out who was in charge. It turns out that the program was sponsored by my favorite surf shop in La Jolla- The Surf Divas www.surfdiva.com  who run the best surfing school in town. I spoke with the owner of the school and told her that over the next year, I'm getting back in the water and I will be there next year ready and willing to assist.


The takeaway? My clients are screwed and I say that lovingly but I really mean it. I'm screwed... No more excuses. So many of us take our bodies for granted. We abuse them, eat the wrong foods, smoke too much, drink too much and have way to many excuses to not exercise. Watching this really drove home to me just how lucky so many of us are. We've got our health...hell most of us have all of our limbs and we don't even try to move them. I hear so many excuses not to and I've used all of the same ones myself. We're too tired , to busy...the list goes on. If you've got all your limbs you've really got no excuse. Believe me...the men and women I just saw would give anything to have theirs back. Given that they lost theirs in service to us  i truly believe that we might owe it to them to make sure that it wasn't in vain.


Here's a link to a wonderful news clip!  http://fox5sandiego.com/2013/09/16/clinic-introduces-wounded-vets-to-adaptive-sports/#axzz2fCig2Ris




Stirring the Senses! ~ It's a fabulous morning after all!



Every now and then you find yourself in a  very surreal and discomforting situation. On our way to Las Vegas yesterday we made a detour through Atlanta  only to find that we'd missed our connecting flight. Instead of the luxurious bed that I was expecting last night, Delta armed me with a travel kit, several vouchers  and a shuttle to the Country Inn at midnight, where the only available food was barely that and the bed was as hard as a board!

We slept for 5 hours and jumped up at 5:00 am to catch our flight out. As we stood in the mile long security line I realized that my feet were SCREAMING as I was wearing the same really cute gold heels that I left with yesterday at 4:00 pm! We got through the line and I deposited my husband at the gate and went off in search of a cup of coffee. On my way back I passed a L'occitane store and glory be,  they were open! 

I have to say that I have always loved L'occitane products and used to sell them in my store when they first arrived stateside. I ducked into the store just wanting something wonderful to sniff. What I was met with were two of the most charming sales associates I'd ever met and it was only 7:00 am! "Do you have any foot cream?" I asked. "Yes , of course" said a lovely gentleman and he handed me the tube. I was just starting to rub my feet when an angel said , "Please let me do that for you!"  At first I felt self concious about letting her, but hedonism quickly took over:) I sat down and proceeded to have the loveliest foot rub , so good that I practically fell asleep in the chair!


I walked out of that store in a blissful state of mind armed  with  a beautiful lavender handcream , a lovely rose sachet that is currently banishing all of the stale air on this airplane ( I feel like such a lady:)  and some of their wonderful foot cream. So far this morning I've had a wonderful foot rub and my husband and I have had hand massages on the plane with the lavender cream that I bought. I'm feeling refreshed and completely rejuvenated all because of the kindness of  a couple of complete strangers who had absolutely no clue that I write about fragrance, beauty and fashion on an almost daily basis. That's  the difference between a salesperson and a great sales associate...when someone treats me that well before they find out that I wrote for the industry I'm always smitten!



I've got to thank Shannon Chandler for his most excellent service and Cheryl Dibbs for  her sweetness and most  excellent hands! Kudo's to  L' Occitane for having the wisdom to hire such  fabulous people! If you ever get to the Atlanta Airport  you'll find them  in Concourse A.  Don't hesitate...you're in for a treat! I've seen L'Occitane in many an airport and I'm always greeted by a smiling face but these two went way above the call of duty and I thank them...worship them practically! They saved my day and made me a customer for life!



Kitchen Apothecary: Master Cleansers and Anti-inflammatoryTeas!

Tinctures, Tonics and Teas: MasterCleansers

Tinctures, Tonics and Teas: MasterCleansers

Oh Dear...There are those in living in my house who have not been eating as well as they should be and one in particular who finally confessed to me after I commented on his pasty countenance that he had been sneaking too many protein bars and Acai Energizer Smoothies as well as the more than occasional Starbucks.  

It doesn't surprise me...Jim is always on the go and does more things in a day than an energizer bunny. But, it's finally caught up with him. I keep teasing him that he's past 50 now and that he should just do everything that I say,  but you know that dog won't hunt! Joint pains, back pains , too many meals eaten out and too much fatigue have finally driven him straight back to my kitchen. He's on a quest to rebuild his energy and his adrenal glands naturally and the first place to start is with a good Master Cleanser and a recommitment to a great vegetarian diet!  

I've used the Master Cleanser for years whenever I've needed to give my body a jump start. It was intially given to me by my teacher LaWanna, but I've seen many variations of this over the years. Right now we're working on cleansing my husbands overall body but especially his liver which is sluggish and fairly angry at him. Too much sugar and meat will do that and this is the best way that I know to bring about the needed balance quickly! 

The Master Cleanser is a combination of spring water, maple syrup, cayenne Pepper and either lemon juice or raw apple cider vinegar. I know that it sounds horrid, but it's actually delicious, a bit like a spicy lemonade. I add very fine olive oil to mine. I've known people to fast on simply this drink for several weeks at a time although I don't encourage it because I think that it's too hard on the tooth enamel.Several days at a time won't hurt though and what I will say, is that after only two days of drinking the Master Cleanser (jars shown above) as well as  my Anti-inflammatory tea ( in the red pot) made fresh from Comfrey, Stinging Nettles, Spearmint,Turmeric, Stevia and Raspberry leaves he's already begun to feel an increase in his energy and better circulation throughtout his body.

Cayenne is a fabulous  gift to the  cardiovascular systems and is also a wonderfully warming spice  for anyone suffering from arthritis, bursitis or any other joint problems. Apple cider vinegar helps to move the body towards a better acid/ alkaline  balance  and  is truly beneficial for anyone whose general nature is too bitter or acidic. Those who are agressive by nature tend to produce more acid in their systems and those who eat meat and sugar on a regular basis are especially prone to these inbalances. Maple sugar is a wonderful blood sugar regulator and a wonderful source of natural energy and I include the olive oil  because it has such antioxidant qualities and the ability to help control high blood pressure and cholesterol. 

In about a week he'll move on to fresh juices , plenty of salads and steamed vegetables with fresh goat cheese , lots of yummy grains and a teaspoon or two of French Green clay and more raw vinegar in those juices to help detoxify the colon. 

 If you'd like to try the master cleanser it's extremely easy to make! Just take two tablespoons of maple syrup, the juice of one lemon or 2 tablespoons of raw apple cider vinegar, two teaspoons of good olive oil , as much cayenne pepper as you can tolerate and mix it into a glass of spring water. It should be room temperature. You can drink this several times a day in place of your normal caffeinated drink and I think that you'll be surprised by how much natural energy you'll have. This is a good recipe to keep around for cold and flu season too. It's one of my my go-to remedies at first sign of a cold because it works so well and truth be told when shaken with some ice and a jigger of vodka or sake does make one of the most delightful martinis ever! (Sans the olive oil of course!)



Wise Woman Traditions: Healing Ourselves Emotionally from Unhealthy Entanglements



From www.experience project.com


"We are all longing to go home to some place we have never been - a place half-remembered and half-envisioned we can only catch glimpses of from time to time. Community. Somewhere, there are people to whom we can speak with passion without having the words catch in our throats. Somewhere a circle of hands will open to receive us, eyes will light up as we enter, voices will celebrate with us whenever we come into our own power. Community means strength that joins our strength to do the work that needs to be done. Arms to hold us when we falter. A circle of healing. A circle of friends. Someplace where we can be free." Starhawk


From time to time, I've found myself in relationships that were difficult without really understanding why I had chosen to be there in the first place. I think that we're always looking for our soulmates on this planet and that sometimes in our inherent human loneliness we can settle for milk chocolate more easily than we can wait for the 70% Green and Black bar. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with milk chocolate- NOT AT ALL...there are some people that for them a Hersheys bar with almonds is their personal nirvana, just not for me.

When I settle in my relationships for behaviors that I don't want to paticipate in and I tolerate behaviors from others that I find  energetically disruptive and would normally never put up with, I know that I'm settling for what is heartsickening for me and does not support the greening of my life.

Unhealthy relationships become draining and emotionally deadly to many of us who are very empathic and we tend to allow those relationships  (key word here is " allow"!) to take over our lives and feel almost apologetic when we can't tolerate them anymore. There are such things as energy vampires... I've found the current fascination with Hollywood vampires to be very unsettling because almost anyone who works with energy in any way has had to free themselves of a "vampiric" relationship or two and knows that there is definitely more fact than fiction when it comes to that sort of relationship.

People hook on to you when  they want something that you have whether it be physical or emotional and because they don't see any way to create it honestly for themselves they settle for trying to take it from you and justify their behavior in whatever way they can. In any situation like this it has everything to do with the emotional security and energy that they crave and believe that they will never have and  the insidious part is that you're getting something out of too. Often this is a person who makes you feel needed and wanted. We all want to be known and loved and a person like this will tend to make you feel as if you are the only one in the world who "gets" them. Your ego will love the attention and you'll feel so good about what you do for them, but you won't realize the trade off until it's just a bit too late. You're already hooked and that's when it becomes your responsibility .


Source Unknown


It's very sad actually because in my experience people who tend to try to derive their energy from other people have had really deep wounding in their childhoods or even other lifetimes. It's a hard cycle for them to break, that cycle of dependency , shame and  anger and what they really needed was to simply be loved listened to and understood.

Strangely enough and because inherently they know the game that they are playing, this same type of person will also get very angry when you begin to question the relationship and try to understand the things that upset you about it. They will often try to psychically and verbally bully you into not reacting and that's where it gets really complicated because of the strange emotional entanglements that you can have when a friendship appears to be very intimate, but is based almost solely upon need. You know if you're in a relationship like this because you feel almost bone dead exhaustion at the thought of it and you start to pick at it in ways that are provocative in a conscious attempt to free yourself. I've seen people who are on the drained end of a relationship like this begin to get physically very weak and  practically heartsick. These are all signs that it's time to quickly move on. Your energy will usually return when you've been able to finally disengage emotionally. 

To be fair I have seen cases where two people want the relationship to work so much that both parties are willing to do the work that it takes to grow together independently. However, that's pretty rare and more often than not  breaking the energetic bonds that you hold between you is the only way to break the spell of a relationship like this because one person is usually getting so much more out of it than the other. I like to encourage the use of ritual for endings like these because I think that as humans we are programmed for it...somehow we need it to inspire us to be bigger than we know ourselves to be.

If you find yourself in a situation  or relationship where you know that it's time for it to be over don't delay the ending. Let that person go with love and image the cutting of the energy between you.If you're angry that's fine..do whatever you need to do to separate but without sending energy that could emotionally harm the other because that's just more of the same and Karma IS really a bitch! Besides...you did once really care and that's to be honored, not diminished.

Take care of yourself and don't worry about the other person...they've got their own work to do and they NEED to do it themselves.  I tend to view this as an amputation and a cauterization, because you want to cut the cords and then staunch the bleeding as fast as possible. If you feel any adverse energies coming at you, just don't engage. (I know..easier said than done!) Ground yourself and put a shield around you and send the energies back, because they belong to that other being, not to you.




Do something that feels good....plant a flower, a tree ...anything that will grow and do it with the intention of freeing yourself from the bonds of your relationship  with the other. Acknowledge that you once cared about the relationship and probably in fact still do but that it no longer serves either if you as it is.

 Hatred won't do that...anger will still keep you bound together in ways that you don't need in your life any longer. Acknowledge the deep sadness that comes from ending a relationship that's been toxic for you and understand that you've been a willing participant. There's no geting around that one....your relationships are your responsibility and in allowing it to continue, you've allowed yourself to  play the victim..an act that does just as much psychic damage to the other person. Last but not least, as hard as it is,  under no circumstances should you be in touch with that person, because once a relationship like this is over, it's over and it takes awhile to heal from the wounding of it.  Once you've determined that it's over and done, it doesn't pay to rehash the obvious or as my mother used to say..."stop smacking yourself Beth and wondering why it hurts!" It doesn't matter if the other person involved doesn't understand~ It's important that you do. With real understanding comes freedom and compassion as well as the ability to never let history repeat itself again.

Psychic self defense

Do the work to energetically extricate yourself because how you feel when it's finally resolved is worth the effort. When relationships that are no longer healthy are removed from your life, everything begins to snap quickly back into focus. The book above by Dion Fortune "Psychic Self Defense" is one of the best books that I've ever read for detailing how to do the work to free yourself from this sort of relationship without causing anymore harm to yourself or THE OTHER PERSON. No hexes, curses, Ill-wishes or other generally bad mojo is EVER allowed !