Why SKinny Sexy Food?

What Happens in Las Vegas!


People ask me all the time right now "What was it that made the difference?" How are you losing so much weight? Well, the truth is that I've always eaten fairly well, but there was the matter of that say....extra 25 pounds that probably worked into the equivalent of 500 pounds given how many times I've gained and lost them! Jim and I have always paid attention to our health, but like everyone else  we'd slip and fall right off of the low fat, low carb ,low whatever we were doing at that point. I looked okay in my clothes I thought, but not great, but I wasn't truly motivated and Jim's the kind of guy that if he doesn't have meat, starch and veggies on the plate feels completely deprived. 

Then we went to Las Vegas with our good friends Steve and Freida. The two of them just happen to be our sons girlfriends parents and this was the first time we'd traveled together so we weren't quite sure what to expect. We stayed at the Wynn and from the very beginning of the trip til the end we had a fabulous time.  Freida is pretty amazing- a stunning blond, about 5'5" with a killer body and a razor sharp whip; a brilliant business woman who I connect with in many ways but mostly I thought through our mutual passion for cooking and family. Little did I know that this particular trip with her would change the structure of my life in such a wonderful way! 

The four of us had a blast together eating, drinking and the guys played (and won!) alot of Blackjack while Freida and I went shopping. Constantly!  That's when it hit me. I had a better time shopping with Freida then I'd  ever had in my whole life. Every girl should have a friend like her.  I was having a wonderful time watching her enjoy herself with abandon...Barneys, Neimans, Diane Von Furstenburg, Oscar de la Renta and Dior and halfway through the first day she looked at me and said "How come you're not trying anything on?".  I realized that I was embarrassed because of my not size 8 body but she was insistent. She wanted me to have as much fun as she was having and she wasn't judging me.  So I started trying on dresses and quickly realized that I had already lost a little bit of weight! But what was so striking was her complete and total emotional generosity. I known alot of women in my life who professed a real sisterhood, but Freida IS the essence of GIRL POWER! She wasn't going to be happy unless I was having fun too!

She MADE me try things on that I would never have tried and she made me buy them. She was so much fun and as I watched her I realized that the only difference between the two of us was that she'd learned to really  discipline herself. She works out practically everyday and she really watches what she eats and then when she wants to she chucks the whole thing. Trust me...we ate really well in Las Vegas! What i realized hanging out with her for a bit was that she'd simply made a choice to be fit, gorgeous and healthy. I realized at that moment that a choice was all I needed to make as well.   

By the time we left Las Vegas I was already committed to a change in our lifestyle. I went home determined to find a way through the maze of diet madness that worked for Jim and me. We joined a JIm...I rediscovered swimming. I find that if I go a day now without doing something...swimming, riding our bike or going for a long walk that I miss it.  I even go without Jim which is a big deal for me! The next part of the plan was really making a commitment to the kind of diet that I know works for me which is primarily plant based. Jim has been eating it with me...having a partner in crime makes it so much more fun. Then I decided on the 10 percent sin part primarily because in this lifetime I will never be able to pass up a plate of wonderful cheese or homemade ice cream made with small batch heavy cream.  It's just not in me. I have become very conscious of the emotional impact of my food choices and meat is just not in the program for the most part anymore, but if I want it (and I know that there's going to come a time this will be the case) I'm going to make sure that I know where it came from and how it was raised. And..like I said in my first post, I'm not willing to not eat something that was made for me with love. The other day I ate a plateful of chicken salad  at a board meeting/luncheon thrown in my honor. I wouldn't have missed it for anything and it was delicious!

So  my diet is for the most part vegan/ vegetarian  with room for a bit of play! I love the food and have so much more energy than when I eat meat, chicken or even fish. Fish was my mainstay but I've discovered that I really don't like the taste anymore. I've learned a lot of tricks to make things taste really good without dairy namely butter which I used to ingest by the pound.I use Earth Balance soy butter and vegannaise which really taste good without the trans fats! I've learned to love coconut milk and almond milk. I learned to finally love pasta with rich yummy tomato sauce, grilled vegetables and shredded vegan rice cheese.  I've joined a CSA and love the thrill that I get every week when I pick up the box of farm fresh vegetables. 

You've got to know that although I  work my plan everyday sometimes I make a mess of it! But what's different now is that I just get right back on and when I fall off, I remember my choice and my commitment! I've lost about 12 pounds and I look really good in my clothes again. I'm getting fit and toned from all of the exercise, which was formally a dirty word! The other thing I've noticed is that because I'm eating a really well balanced diet (believe it or not a vegan diet can be very well balanced!) I'm not snacking and because I'm exercising my hormones are more balanced. I have  barely taken a herbal supplement since I started and before I relied on them all of the time. I feel great and I'm proud of what I'm doing and for the first time in my life it doesn't feel like work!

You can do this too! I'll be your girlfriend and hold your hand through the process. It helps to have someone to share the journey with. Let me know what I can do for you and tell me - What's your 10% sin?


Welcome to Skinny Sexy Food!



A state of mind having nothing to do with size but everything to do with health!


A juicily passionate and sensuously rich state of being that leaves you completely alive and ready for anything!


Sustenance for your body, nurturing for your soul and a wonderful way to connect deeply with your family and friends!

90 Percent Vegan...Ten Percent Sin!

Giving yourself the blessing to taste and enjoy whatever you'd like, denying yourself nothing, but choosing only the best from the freshest, most compassionate sources!

Well, here it is, the ripe old age of 51! So far, it feels better than all of of my other years put together.... somethings changed and I'm liking the confidence that it's brought! I'm feeling more comfortable in my skin than I ever have and somehow even the inevitable wrinkles,   bumps and spots don't seem quite as bad as I thought that they would. That being said, I've also decided that this is the year for a creative lifestyle change, one that will propel me into the next 50 with tons of energy. Years of competitive horseback riding have taken their toll on my joints.  I'm bound and determined to learn to surf again and I'm definitely going to wear a really sexy bathing suit again and a mini skirt.... simply because I can.

My adorable husband  and I have embarked on a quest to grow very old , gray and wise together. God love the man, he adores me just the way that I am  20 extra pounds and all. Truth be told, neither of us are worried about the extra weight so much, but we'd love to feel spectacular at 50 plus and better what we did at 20. Shooting hoops  last week with our 23 year old son brought the truth home....we've both been taking our good health for granted.

Our son yelled at us about our lack of commitment to ourselves and our not yet even a "twinkle in the eye" grandchildren. I understand how he feels...he watched his grandmother die several years of a stroke caused by her heart issues, diabetes and all of the complications that go along with that. I took that as a huge sign of love from my kid and decided to listen. So Jim and I have decided to embark on this creative journey together.  


Cassie, our son's adorably tiny yet totally curvy, vegetarian sometimes vegan , yoga instructress, nutritionist girlfriend  has been talking to us about the virtues of a plant based way of eating for awhile now.  She's pretty tough with on us, but she's been truly helpful in inspiring  us to design a lifestyle around food and health that we love. So after dancing around the issue for awhile I  decided to try a 30 day vegan cleanse. It's wonderful because Jim did it with me and so did Cassie and ~gasp~ even my son. Cass and I are doing pretty strictly vegan and Alex and Jim have a few ways to cheat because they both need that.  

I've done the vegetarian thing on and off for awhile but without much success in terms of my weight loss and my congestion. Eliminating animal flesh and fat plus dairy and eggs from my diet 90 plus percent of the time is finally doing the trick! My belly fat is leaving yet my curves haven't abandoned ship! The best news...I'm not hungry at all and my energy is soaring!

 I'm a devoted foodie and I never thought that I could do this, but the changes that I'm noticing in my health and my body are continuously keeping me inspired! The 90/10 percent formula works really well for me and this blog is my quest to bring to you some damn good recipes and ideas for creating a lifestyle change that's really healthy as well as seductively wonderful.

I use the term "seductively" because I want to entice you into trying something new, no matter what that looks like for you. For example, I truly never felt that I would love Yoga. I wasn't sure that I could be still enough, let alone not worry about looking like a fool or completely fat in my clothes when I did the poses. What I've discovered is that Yoga challenges and relaxes me on all levels (body , mind and spirit) in the same way that riding my horse does and that a treadmill never has. I've also begun to swim several times a week. I love being in the water, swimming 30 minutes of laps and then rewarding myself with a long soak in the whirlpool and then 15 minutes in the steam room.  It's incredibly relaxing, my skin has never looked better  and my arms which were filled with more "jelly" than a donut have become unrecognizable to me! 

As cliche as it sounds ,when I'm in the middle of a Hot Yoga class sweating profusely I fall quickly into my "zone". The first few times I did the class in baggy sport pants and a t shirt. After a couple of classes I ventured out and bought myself some really cute yoga clothes in my size. They're tight yet fluid and very body conscious, but I love them because I can really notice my body in them and that feels very good! I'm not on a quest to be "skinny", I'm on a mission to be healthy and fit for the rest of my life. If I can be a toned and healthy size 10/12 for the rest of my life that will be fine with me!  I'm getting there...I just purchased a smaller bathing suit than I've had  in years and it looks good! Slow and steady progress keeps this inspiring. I didn't get chubby overnight so I'm being more patient with myself than ever before.

Trust me though, there are days when I want to chuck the whole 90 percent vegan thing into the nearest saute' pan full of filet. But the benefits are seeming to far outweigh the upsets. Eliminating dairy from my diet has my joints feeling fluid and my sinuses clear. Sleeping is way easier! Pain and Inflammation...fading fast! My husband is experiencing the same things as well as incredibly renewed energy without Starbucks and all of the added sugar that he relies on to stay awake! Giving up sugar laden cocktails has been great for him too. A glass of red wine every now and then or a fabulous martini made with sake' is just as good and packs way less of a sugar load!
Food and our relationship with it is a very tricky thing. We adore it and there's no getting around that. There's nothing that I love more than cooking for my family and friends. I love eating almost as much as I love sex and I've always had large appetites for life and that spills right over into my eating habits. So I figure that if I can keep my appetites and use that emotional passion to create fabulous food that's going to keep me happy and healthy that I owe it to myself and my future grandkids to do so!

I'm not saying that this is easy......actually transforming these years of built in eating habits is pretty tough for a diehard food freak like me. But the 90/10 formula works well for me and I think that it could for many people who want to eat healthier foods but are afraid of feeling deprived. That 10 percent is reserved for things like a perfect croissant with a bit of great cheese, or perhaps you want a piece or two of fried chicken one night.

Go ahead. Just make sure that you're making choices that are good for you and the planet.  There are a million reasons to avoid meat , dairy and fish that have come from our factory farming system, you know them and I don't have to detail them again. Eating that food will make you sick as hell. Make your fried chicken from a bird that been raised well, without antibiotics and with as little pain as possible. Buy your eggs, milk, cheese and meat from a farmer you know...join a CSA  or shop at a farmers market and get to know your food!


I know that this puts me at odds with the PETA folks...but if you want to eat well and you're not ready for such a extreme you've got to start somewhere. I respect PETA for everything they do and the awareness that they bring us, but like most people I don't want to be told that "I cant". I eat this way because I see and feel the results.  I want to have you come to a healthier way of life by experiencing the benefits not the dogma. I definitely have opinions about the way we raise our food and I make my choices based upon those opinions. But if you have me for dinner and you've forgotten that I choose a mostly vegan diet, trust me.... I'll eat what you serve unless there's an allergy involved! The love with which you prepared it for me is the most important thing in the world to me and I'll never turn that down.

Please feel free to write and share your thoughts! I'll even take hate mail provided you're polite! This journey wouldn't be nearly as much fun without some good companions so I'll look forward to seeing you around my dinner table!


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