People ask me all the time right now "What was it that made the difference?" How are you losing so much weight? Well, the truth is that I've always eaten fairly well, but there was the matter of that say....extra 25 pounds that probably worked into the equivalent of 500 pounds given how many times I've gained and lost them! Jim and I have always paid attention to our health, but like everyone else we'd slip and fall right off of the low fat, low carb ,low whatever we were doing at that point. I looked okay in my clothes I thought, but not great, but I wasn't truly motivated and Jim's the kind of guy that if he doesn't have meat, starch and veggies on the plate feels completely deprived.
Then we went to Las Vegas with our good friends Steve and Freida. The two of them just happen to be our sons girlfriends parents and this was the first time we'd traveled together so we weren't quite sure what to expect. We stayed at the Wynn and from the very beginning of the trip til the end we had a fabulous time. Freida is pretty amazing- a stunning blond, about 5'5" with a killer body and a razor sharp whip; a brilliant business woman who I connect with in many ways but mostly I thought through our mutual passion for cooking and family. Little did I know that this particular trip with her would change the structure of my life in such a wonderful way!
The four of us had a blast together eating, drinking and the guys played (and won!) alot of Blackjack while Freida and I went shopping. Constantly! That's when it hit me. I had a better time shopping with Freida then I'd ever had in my whole life. Every girl should have a friend like her. I was having a wonderful time watching her enjoy herself with abandon...Barneys, Neimans, Diane Von Furstenburg, Oscar de la Renta and Dior and halfway through the first day she looked at me and said "How come you're not trying anything on?". I realized that I was embarrassed because of my not size 8 body but she was insistent. She wanted me to have as much fun as she was having and she wasn't judging me. So I started trying on dresses and quickly realized that I had already lost a little bit of weight! But what was so striking was her complete and total emotional generosity. I known alot of women in my life who professed a real sisterhood, but Freida IS the essence of GIRL POWER! She wasn't going to be happy unless I was having fun too!
She MADE me try things on that I would never have tried and she made me buy them. She was so much fun and as I watched her I realized that the only difference between the two of us was that she'd learned to really discipline herself. She works out practically everyday and she really watches what she eats and then when she wants to she chucks the whole thing. Trust me...we ate really well in Las Vegas! What i realized hanging out with her for a bit was that she'd simply made a choice to be fit, gorgeous and healthy. I realized at that moment that a choice was all I needed to make as well.
By the time we left Las Vegas I was already committed to a change in our lifestyle. I went home determined to find a way through the maze of diet madness that worked for Jim and me. We joined a JIm...I rediscovered swimming. I find that if I go a day now without doing something...swimming, riding our bike or going for a long walk that I miss it. I even go without Jim which is a big deal for me! The next part of the plan was really making a commitment to the kind of diet that I know works for me which is primarily plant based. Jim has been eating it with me...having a partner in crime makes it so much more fun. Then I decided on the 10 percent sin part primarily because in this lifetime I will never be able to pass up a plate of wonderful cheese or homemade ice cream made with small batch heavy cream. It's just not in me. I have become very conscious of the emotional impact of my food choices and meat is just not in the program for the most part anymore, but if I want it (and I know that there's going to come a time this will be the case) I'm going to make sure that I know where it came from and how it was raised. And..like I said in my first post, I'm not willing to not eat something that was made for me with love. The other day I ate a plateful of chicken salad at a board meeting/luncheon thrown in my honor. I wouldn't have missed it for anything and it was delicious!
So my diet is for the most part vegan/ vegetarian with room for a bit of play! I love the food and have so much more energy than when I eat meat, chicken or even fish. Fish was my mainstay but I've discovered that I really don't like the taste anymore. I've learned a lot of tricks to make things taste really good without dairy namely butter which I used to ingest by the pound.I use Earth Balance soy butter and vegannaise which really taste good without the trans fats! I've learned to love coconut milk and almond milk. I learned to finally love pasta with rich yummy tomato sauce, grilled vegetables and shredded vegan rice cheese. I've joined a CSA and love the thrill that I get every week when I pick up the box of farm fresh vegetables.
You've got to know that although I work my plan everyday sometimes I make a mess of it! But what's different now is that I just get right back on and when I fall off, I remember my choice and my commitment! I've lost about 12 pounds and I look really good in my clothes again. I'm getting fit and toned from all of the exercise, which was formally a dirty word! The other thing I've noticed is that because I'm eating a really well balanced diet (believe it or not a vegan diet can be very well balanced!) I'm not snacking and because I'm exercising my hormones are more balanced. I have barely taken a herbal supplement since I started and before I relied on them all of the time. I feel great and I'm proud of what I'm doing and for the first time in my life it doesn't feel like work!
You can do this too! I'll be your girlfriend and hold your hand through the process. It helps to have someone to share the journey with. Let me know what I can do for you and tell me - What's your 10% sin?